Would you rather be right, or would you rather be happy? In the mad dash to prove that they are “right” about things, entire nations have gone to war, best friends have dissolved their friendships, and couples have parted ways forever. This seems like something we can all fix.

Question: In a heated discussion, what is your usual motive?

-To be the winner

-To show I am smarter

-To prove that I am “righter” than someone I love

-To acknowledge each other’s point of view and stay in love

If you and I love each other, who really cares if I like Chopin, and you like country-western? Or if I love the mountains and you love the beach? Or if you love a porterhouse steak, and I love a portobello sandwich?

Think about this one: If I’m a republican, and you’re a democrat does that mean that I love a democrat and you love a republican? If so, maybe we’re on to something here.

In the end, the most important thing—even more than being right—is being happy and in love.

When people love each other, an important kind of giving is